Divorce mediation is a critical part of my practice and an area where I have extensive experience. In fact, I have been certified by the Massachusetts Council on Family Mediation, a designation that is reserved for members with significant mediation experience, advanced training and education.
Divorce mediation is a way for you and your spouse to take charge of your divorce and the process. It is for people who think that they can craft a better solution to their problems than a judge who has a couple of hours (or less) to learn about their situation.
My role, as mediator, is to facilitate negotiations between you and your spouse in a series of face-to-face meetings. Retaining your own attorney during this process is recommended but not required and in most instances your attorney does not come to the mediation sessions.
Negotiations take place in a series of meetings in which we make sure that everyone has the financial and other information needed to discuss the contested issues and has an opportunity to express their thoughts and concerns, and ultimately to agree upon solutions that everyone feels are fair.
As mediator, I will provide you with a list of issues that you will need to address in your Divorce Agreement. In addition, I will coordinate the exchange of financial and other information that will be needed to settle your divorce. As a mediator, I do not represent either party, nor will either of you receive legal advice from me. Instead, my job is to be a neutral facilitator in a series of negotiation sessions between you and your spouse.
I also prepare the Divorce Agreement so it can be submitted to the court together with the other paperwork necessary to file for an uncontested divorce. I have written a series of articles related to divorce mediation and I invite you to read these articles to learn more about divorce mediation.
Are you and your spouse candidates for divorce mediation? That depends on a few factors:
- Do you believe your spouse will voluntarily and honestly disclose all relevant financial information?
- Can you sit down at a table with your spouse and explain your needs and concerns without being intimidated by your spouse?
- How committed are you to reducing the conflict in your divorce for the sake of both of your relationships with your children?
If you’re comfortable with your responses to these questions, divorce mediation can be the most cost-effective of the three methods of obtaining a divorce—even when you choose to retain your own attorney to assist you.
If you feel your case could be a candidate for divorce mediation, please contact me at 978-356-2934. If you are interested in exploring mediation, I will schedule an initial consultation for you and your spouse.